Life through a lens

Our Story..

Way back in the fall of 2003 when I was a junior in college, I was hanging out over at my friend {K}’s apartment with another friend of ours who was a boy.  The boy had told us that his friend Matt was coming to pick him up shortly, but we didn’t put 2 and 2 together. See, my other good friend {N} had been talking about this guy that she liked named Matt  for weeks, but neither of us had met him.  When Matt got to the apartment complex, he decided it would be fun to just try to walk into a few before figuring out which one his friend was actually in. On his first try, he walked into ours, goofed around with his friend and then left to go do what he’d set out to do.  If you know me, then you know I would NEVER do anything like that and I thought he was crazy for it!  Once he came back, our guy friend introduced Matt to {K} and I and we finally put it together that this was the guy our friend {N} had been talking about all along.  We burst out laughing, the boys left, and we called {N} to find out why in the world she liked this weird guy!  {N} explained how sweet and funny he was and we just couldn’t understand what she saw in him from our first impression.  Over the next few weeks, I got to know and hang out with Matt through my friend {N} and finally understood her huge crush.

Over the next semester, we all, me, {N} and Matt, had classes together, ate lunch together, studied together, and hung out.  I got to really know this ‘crazy guy’ I’d met only 6 months earlier and without my approval, feelings started to develop.  At first, it was weird. We had become really good friends, Matt and I, but I didn’t know if my friend {N} still liked him and I certainly didn’t want to like a boy that my friend did. So I put my feelings on the back burner, cut them off, and didn’t even think about them.  My feelings were not going to ruin the great friendship I had with both of them.  Then one day {N} tells me she doesn’t like Matt anymore, but by then another friend of ours had made her feelings for Matt known, not only to us, but to him.  (He was such a ladies man! HA!) So, again, I put my feelings on the back burner, cut them off, and didn’t even think about them.  I enjoyed my time with Matt like any friend would, and our friendship grew.  I noticed something different about him that no other boy had made me feel, comfortable.  Normally around guys I felt uptight, nervous, and self conscious, but with Matt, I could be myself. Completely.  He made me laugh like no one else and also embarrassed me like no one else!  But I loved being around him.

That summer, we both went to a summer program in order to grow in our relationship with Christ, be challenged to share our faith, and pray for people and places I had never even heard of.  It was a great experience for me, but some aspects were really hard too.  I didn’t have the best attitude about things, and Matt noticed.  I remember that every time I would see him, he would compliment me about something.  In his eyes, it was to make me feel better, but for me it was confusing and angering.  The friend back home still liked Matt, and I was trying to not like him, so having him say sweet things to me all the time did not help the situation!  So, I avoided him, griped at him for the smallest things, and really tried to push him away.  But, he didn’t go away.

My friend moved away at the beginning of the spring semester and we weren’t on the best of terms.  But my friendship with Matt had continued to grow, and that spring, he asked me on our first date.  2 years later, he asked me to be his wife with one of the best proposals I’ve ever heard of, but that’s for anther post :)

Matt – Today, we celebrate 4 years as husband and wife!  I cannot believe how fast time has flown, how much I’ve learned from you, and how much my love for you has grown.  You have taught me so much about love, sacrifice, hard work, diligence, integrity, truth, the list could go on.. You have been an amazing encourager to me, my very best friend, and confidant.  You bring me so much joy and laughter and I am so, so, sooo blessed to call you my husband.  And our daughter is beyond blessed to have a daddy like you! You will be incredible and I can’t wait to watch you as you learn this new role.  You’re my favorite! Love you!

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